New Motorcycle

It's a dream come true for me. Last week on October 12th I got my KTM Duke 390 after a long wait of 3 months. Riding a beauty and (beast) like this one is such boost to my inner self. Bike is head turner and the public attention is awesome. It's evident from my smile in the picture that how happy I am. Touring will start now. Let's ride.

Well.. Ladies

What makes people happy ?

Had a quiet peaceful walk on the beach now. I do this once in a while . It clears the noise out of my head and brings me closer to myself. I feel that I am living my own life and not someone else’s. It satisfies me. But I can’t call it as happiness.

As I was returning back walking, I saw couples, friends, even dogs engaged in some sort of activities, someone was smiling, someone was playing, people were laughing , hugging and enjoying the romance and some were just busy sleeping on the sand, all of them looked happy to me. I don’t know why. I asked myself, what do they have right now which I don’t have. Why am I not smiling ? And does an absence of smile on my face means I am not happy ? 

I was happy. Very happy when I had a girlfriend. I had a purpose of life and it was only to make her happy in every possible way. Ah, even then I thought of ‘her’ happiness and not mine. But unfortunately she is not with me now, leaving myself for myself. But that has helped me achieved peace. Honestly life is really peaceful now.

But I do get my share of happiness in doing things like listening to my favorite band. Occasionally I will plug in earphones and headbang to the kicks and it takes me to another level . Such feeling is spiritual to me and I don’t relate that feeling only to God ( God? What’s that? ) . At that higher level, I actually feel adrenaline running fast and its difficult to express what I feel that time. Yes, that’s how I make myself happy. 

Also the sound of my favorite bikes makes me happy. Royal Enfield, Rx100 , ooooh its just music to my ears :)

Yes it’s a weird ending to this post because its time to sleep and a good sleep is what makes me happy :)

Brain is a wonderful organ

This is just a personal description of one of the numerous wonderful aspects of brain. Its about love. The problem with reading and knowing too much about your brain is that , you know whats happening to you which is both good and bad. Good because if the event happening is harmful to you then you can probably try to do something to avoid the occurrence of that event. Bad because you can never live in peace and you are constantly thinking. I call it Brainception because the brain is constantly thinking what the brain is thinking or what it wants to think , and it goes on and on.

If the brain knows what it wants to know and what it wants to get, it will take over the small counter feeling in the back of your mind . Its very confusing because on one side you are aware of what you are going to think , and on the other hand you are also very aware of the small counter(opposite) feeling in the back of your mind . In some cases you want the counter feeling to take over and come forward but because brain is playing tricks on you , or I should say playing tricks on itself, it will keep both the feelings alive but will not let happen the thought you actually want to ‘think’.
So coming back to real thing, love. If i like someone, so I know alright there is this girl so my brain is obviously thinking about her and all. Back of the mind you know that you are not in love with her and you don’t even want to fall in love with her. But now when you have ‘stated’ it, your brain will start working on its counter that is YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THAT GIRL. So the brain starts creating the illusion around you , makes you to think constantly about that someone and the big mistake we do is to perceive this illusion as the ‘truth’ and we end up believing that yes I am in love with her, when you are actually not.
I know its much of a too much and pain to analyse this love feeling inside our brain. I should not do it because I believe in going with the flow of the moment. But I believe it also gives me the power to win over this illusion and prevents me from going where I should not be going. 

Brain is a wonderful organ :)

Love : Some Questions

Are you in love? Or were you in love at some point of time in past? You must have had a crush in school or college for sure! Regardless of your relationship status, you have a set of thoughts about love, i.e. what is love, what is not love etc. which presides your part of personality and mind which deals with love. But try to think of the times you felt that you are in love; it could have been years ago or in recent times. Probably you knew the person for a few months or even for a few years before you felt that you are in love with him/her. But who told you that you are in love? Was it that voice inside your brain? Or one of your close friends assured you that you are in love? Whatever is the source of the input, what made you decide that it is love, and not something else?

What builds the source of variables of the equation of love? We read books, we watch movies, we see couples holding hands and kissing and other lovers in relationship. Is our understanding of love limited to the objects around us and people we interact with? If that is true, isn’t that a huge constraint? And if it’s not, what is the thing which is teaching the world about love? Is it our own mind? But what about someone who falls in love with someone for first time and decides that he ‘is’ in love ? For such a person, the most basic understanding of what love is, should come from his worldly understanding only!

Before we fall in love, we merely know that people fall in love and it’s a wonderful feeling. But at what stage one realizes that he/she is in love? What is the critical point or stage here which separates your mind from ‘before love’ and ‘in love’? I had a good chat about this topic with one of my friends and she told me that with one of the guys in life, it was slow and gradual. First they used to talk about work and slowly the conversation turned personal and things went ahead. I guess then there is no clear indication from nothing to everything and it’s a gradual process. Having said all the questions about love, let’s look at the science behind it.

There are a lot of chemicals racing around your brain and body when you’re in love. That initial giddiness that comes when we’re first falling in love includes a racing heart, flushed skin and sweaty palms. Researchers say this is due to the dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine we’re releasing. Dopamine is thought to be the “pleasure chemical,” producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement. The human body releases the cocktail of love rapture only when certain conditions are met and … men more readily produce it than women, because of their more visual nature.”

There are three stages of love:

Lust:   This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.

Attraction: This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.

Adrenaline: The initial stage of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

Dopamine: This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!

Serotonin: One of love’s most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.

Attachment: Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.

Oxytocin: Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm.  It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. It is also responsible for a mum’s breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her young baby.

Vasopressin: Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.

And finally … how to fall in love

Find a complete stranger.

Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour.

Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes.

 York psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun, has been studying why people fall in love.

He asked his subjects to carry out the above 3 steps and found that many of his couples felt deeply attracted after the 34 minute experiment.

Two of his subjects later got married.